Welcome to Reclaim Your Power and Life: How Survivors of Abuse Can Take Back Control! Most of us have experienced abuse in one form or another, whether physical, mental, psychological, sexual, verbal or any other form. It can be hard to see the way out of such a dark place, but Christine Malek is here to show us how it’s done.
Christine is a survivor of abuse and has made it her mission to help those still in the process of recovery, to give them the strength and courage to reclaim their power and lives. Christine Malek did it and show you how to be empowered to find strength in your journey.
About Christine Malek
Meet Christine Malek. She is 57 years old and lives in Tennessee. She is a survivor of six and a half years of domestic violence. In her mission to help other survivors of abuse, Christine coined the term “SASSI.” She is passionate about empowering women and helping them find their strength. Christine believes every woman has the potential to become “Strong, Assertive, Smart, Sexy, and Independent.” She is a true powerhouse and an inspiration for all survivors of abuse.
Why is it important for abuse survivors to reclaim their power and lives?
For survivors of abuse, reclaiming power and their lives is essential to regaining control and autonomy. When someone has experienced abuse, they often feel powerless and helpless, as if their autonomy and sense of self have been stripped away. Taking back their power can help restore a sense of self-worth and self-efficacy that can be incredibly empowering.
Women who take back control of their lives begin making decisions for themselves and discovering what it means to live their lives on their terms. This inner strength also helps them heal from the trauma and process their experiences safely and empoweringly. As a result, they develop healthy coping strategies and build new relationships based on mutual respect and trust. Reclaiming their power can help survivors move forward in a more positive and healthy manner to regain a sense of optimism and hope for their future.
Here are suggestions Christine offers to regain your inner SASSI:
- Recognize that admitting your greatest weakness is your strength.
- Have a plan in place.
- Be empowered and know you are SASSI.
1. Recognize that admitting your greatest weakness is your strength.
Christine believes that recognizing your greatest weakness as a strength is a powerful concept but can often be difficult to grasp. It can be especially difficult for survivors of abuse who have been conditioned to think of themselves as weak and to accept blame for the bad things that happened to them. To admit to your greatest weakness requires courage and self-awareness. It is a sign that you are willing to take responsibility for your actions and are not afraid to accept the truth. It can be difficult to admit that you have been taken advantage of or made mistakes, but Christine shares that it is an important step in the healing journey and should be celebrated!
It is also a sign of resiliency. Acknowledging your mistakes or vulnerabilities can be difficult, but it also shows strength and courage. Christine shares that by admitting your weaknesses and accepting the consequences of your actions, you can start to move forward and rebuild your life. It better helps you understand yourself and build a better future. Admitting weaknesses can be the first step in a journey of personal growth, and it can be the foundation for a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
2. Have a plan in place in case of abuse.
Christine stresses that having a plan in case of abuse is essential in helping abuse survivors. This safety plan should include who to contact in case of an emergency, a safe place to go, and any other resources or support people who may be able to help.
Additionally, Christine shares that we should all have a plan to support someone being abused. This may include providing a safe space to talk, offering emotional support, and helping them to develop a plan to leave the relationship if they choose to.
Lastly, knowing how to recognize the signs of abuse is important to support someone going through it. This includes recognizing signs like physical violence, emotional manipulation, and financial control. Noticing the signs of abuse can help survivors to regain their power and ultimately end the cycle of abuse.
Resources such as free and confidential hotlines, legal help, and counseling are available. Knowing what resources are available can help survivors to gain the support they need to make informed decisions.
3. Be empowered and know that you are SASSI.
Christine helps women become empowered and know that they are SASSI–Strong, Assertive, Smart, Sexy, and Independent and can help them recover from abuse. Recognizing your worth and potential helps you see the signs of abuse and how to respond to it. Begin by recognizing your Strengths and abilities and being confident in yourself and who you are.
Also, Christine shares that becoming more Assertive can help you stand up for yourself and express your needs and desires.
Being Smart helps you to become empowered, knowing when to trust and be wary. Christine can help you learn to trust yourself and your intuition.
Lastly, recognize your Sexiness and Independence; to know that you can take care of yourself and be confident in who you are. Through recognizing these strengths, you can become empowered to tap into your inner SASSI.
Woking through the trauma of abuse allows you to heal. Find a safe and supportive environment, whether therapy, a support group, or a community of people that can offer support and understanding. Sharing your experiences helps you gain perspective and understanding.
Christine also recommends self-care by focusing on activities that bring joy and happiness. This could include taking time for yourself, engaging in physical activity, or engaging in activities that please you.
Be aware of your triggers, and plan to respond if you are in a triggering situation. This plan may include distractions, such as listening to music, engaging in a healthy activity, or reaching out to a support system or therapist.
As Christine Malek has shown, taking back control of your life and developing healthy coping strategies can be incredibly empowering. Remember that you are SASSI–Strong, Assertive, Smart, Sexy, and Independent and that no matter how hard it may seem, you have the courage and strength to reclaim your power and life.
Most importantly, if you are in danger, call 911 or get help through the Domestic Survivor Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Someone is available to talk what you 24 hours a day, and they offer an interpretation service for those who don’t speak English.
You don’t have to suffer in silence!
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