Coach Lee Hopkins is a transgender man who has experienced the struggle of making meaningful connections with people for most of his life. He shares his story of transformation from hiding his true self to becoming a coach and teaching others how to make friends. Coach Lee is about creating and establishing relationships based on our authentic selves.
Do you ever feel like you’re just going through the motions with people? Like you’re not connecting with them on a deeper level? You may have been told that the best way to make meaningful connections is to be yourself and be authentic.
” The most important thing is to be yourself and to know that that’s enough.”—Coach Lee
Coach Lee tells the story of his journey from hiding his true self to becoming a coach and teaching others how to make friends. He struggled for most of his life to make meaningful connections with people until he learned to love himself for who he is at his soul level. From there, he created true friendships and shared solutions with us to find the connection, friendship, and community we desire.
How to find meaningful relationships:
- Don’t try to hide who you are – be your authentic self
- Don’t be afraid to share your story with others
- Understand that not everyone will accept you, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on trying to make connections
1. Don’t try to hide who you are – be your authentic self
The first step in finding your authentic self is embracing and being proud of who you are. This can be difficult if you have been hiding who you are for a long time, but it is important to remember that you are not alone. Many people have gone through the same thing and come out the other side stronger and more confident. The key is to find a community of people who accept you for who you are and can support you on your journey. This can be difficult, but it is worth finding people who will love and accept you for exactly who you are.
2. Don’t be afraid to share your story with others
To make meaningful connections with others, be honest about who you are, what you want, and what you’re looking for in a friend or relationship. It can be scary to put yourself out there, but it’s the only way to find people who truly accept and understand you. If you’re struggling to be yourself, try talking to a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your fears and build self-confidence.
Finding people who truly understand and accept you can be difficult, but it’s worth it to keep searching until you find your tribe. Don’t give up on yourself – there are people who will love and support you for who you are.
3. Understand that not everyone will accept you, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on trying to make connections
What Coach Lee has learned is that making connections with people is about the process of understanding them. For example, having a relationship with his mom means recognizing her experiences, and her life has led up to having her own certain beliefs. Seeing things from her perspective benefits him because her experience and beliefs color her belief about trans people.
By recognizing this, he separates himself from his mother’s story and does not take her actions and beliefs personally. Because it has nothing to do with him, he can love her unconditionally.
So he’s learning how not to put pressure on other people to accept him (because he can’t control that) but to see if he can find common ground or mutual understanding and create a friendship from there. It’s okay if not everyone accepts him and he doesn’t need to force himself into relationships that aren’t meant to be.
Coach Lee’s story reminds us that we all have our journeys to take and should be careful not to put our baggage on other people. We all have different experiences and beliefs that led us to where we are today, and it’s important to remember that when we’re trying to build relationships with others.
We all can make meaningful connections with others, but it starts with being our authentic selves. It’s not easy being vulnerable, but it’s the only way to find people who truly accept and understand us. If you’re struggling to be yourself, try talking to a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your fears and build self-confidence.
I’d love to hear about you and your experience with being your authentic self. Leave me a comment on how it went for you, or drop me any questions you want Coach Lee or me to answer!
Where to find Coach Lee—
Podcast: Patterns of Possibility
Free Course: Understanding Connections
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Eps. 7. Life Is For the Living
Eps. 31. A Pathway to Insight with Ann Hince
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